At the Top of My Lungs: Facebook Force Field (Social Media, Social Me)

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
At the Top of My Lungs: Facebook Force Field (Social Media, Social Me)
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Elliot Schrage, Jennifer Glass and Michael Buckley at Facebook headquarters in Menlo Park, CA; Photo credit: Matt Harnack

“No man is an island.” — John Donne

Remember playing Telephone when you were a kid? One child would whisper something to the next and so on, until the last kid would say the message out loud and it would be hilariously different from the original.

In the first days of my cancer diagnosis I felt I was in a marathon game of Telephone, minus the hilarious part.

Each day brought volumes of information to be conveyed to an ever-widening group of family and friends. I shared updates by phone, talking with one concerned party at a time.

I have a weird lump on my neck. I have metastatic lung cancer. I’ll start chemo and radiation soon. I don’t know when. I don’t know why this happened. I love you, too.

These conversations were exhausting for me and frustrating for those on the other end of the line. Depending on the information available that day, each person came away with a different perspective on, “How is Jennifer?”

I needed to find a better way to manage the information and set the tone. Social media was the perfect way to share updates and to build the community on which I knew I would rely.

There are several good websites designed to help people with illness keep loved ones informed about treatment and progress. I know many people have found MyLifeLine.org to be extremely helpful. For me, Caring Bridge was a wonderful resource, and initially that’s where I posted updates.

As time progresses, though, more and more people learn that I have cancer. Each time someone becomes aware of my illness, that’s one more person offering help, good wishes, or specific and useful advice. Most of these people are already on Facebook, and that’s where I live my cyber social life.

Every “like,” every “friend,” every message of support buoys me as I learn to live with this terrible disease. Each voice is amplified, helping not only me, but all of the people who care about me. Those who love me are part of a global support network of people invested in my story, rooting for me every day.

I’ve always been a highly social person. Now that my health prevents me from getting out as much as I’d like, my online social community is profoundly important. Through Facebook I remain informed and engaged, I participate and feel relevant. I know about things like Sharknado. My online interactions help me avoid feeling and acting like a marginalized sick person.

A couple of years ago I had the extraordinary opportunity to work at Facebook, with the company’s world-class communications team. From that vantage I got an up-close look at many poignant stories of community and connection, empathy and altruism, strong will and good will. Now that’s my story, too.

I call it the Facebook force field, or my social media safety net. When I stumble, there are so many virtual hands to catch me. People come together from all parts of my life to shield me, not from sadness or pain, but from ever feeling that I am going through this alone.

This column originally appeared on parade.com. For more by Jennifer Glass, click here.
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Good News – The Huffington Post
A Concussion Changed Derek Amato’s Life, And Gave Him A Skill He Never Knew He Had (VIDEO)
Derek Amato says his whole life changed the day he dived into a swimming pool’s shallow end.

On that afternoon in October 2006, Amato suffered a serious concussion that reportedly cost him 35 percent of his hearing and some of his memory. But he gained an extraordinary musical talent. Amato discovered that he could suddenly play piano — and he could do it well.

Doctors diagnosed him with “acquired savant syndrome” — a condition where a mental impairment results in extraordinary skills, according to Popular Science.

And so, the 39-year-old sales trainer from Denver decided to drastically change his life and became a professional pianist.

“I decided I would never ever again spend my lifetime chasing money,” he said in the TEDx talk he gave this past August. “At that very moment, my purpose became extremely clear… I believe we are here for two purposes, to serve and to love.”

But what if his skill suddenly went away?

Seven years later, Amato answered that question in an interview with HuffPost Live. Remarkably, he’s not afraid of losing his musical abilities. He’s aware that his talent could all disappear at any moment, but he’s not intimidated.

“I’ve had seven years [with this syndrome]. Not too many people get to see this much life in seven years. I’ve been pretty lucky,” he tells HuffPost Live. “Hey, if it goes away, I’ve had seven beautiful years to enjoy it.”

Watch Amato’s TEDx talk below:

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