YouTube user hornline wrote that the dreamy hysterics went on “for about ten minutes one afternoon while napping.” Talk about sweet dreams!
Okay, so maybe some (New Yorkers) people feel this way, BUT that is only because they have yet to discover the greatness of the city, and all that it has to offer. Seriously guys, Los Angeles is cool!
The video makes a good point though — Why would an entire city eat frozen yogurt in a world where ice cream exists?
I think we can agree that people who hire a coach are looking to improve their state of affairs. In other words, they want to change their behavior or change their circumstances. People hiring life coaches want help in achieving their life goals, improving their relationships, dealing with others more effectively, making more money, etc. Businesspeople hiring executive coaches either want to overcome some problem behavior, such as not taking action due to a fear of making mistakes or the inability to delegate, or to improve their ability to do something, such as build and manage a team.
The real question is, what makes a coach better able to do this than the person being coached? Why can’t you do this on your own?
Most coaches probably aren’t smarter than you. If there is anything they know that you don’t know you could probably find it on the web. They can remind you to keep your commitments but a friend could do that too for far less money. So the question still remains: Why are so many people hiring and getting real value from coaches?
What coaches offer we cannot do ourselves.
I suggest that the real value of a good coach is her mindset or worldview. A coach can look at a situation and literally see possibilities that the client cannot see. And what enables the coach to do that? Her beliefs about the world are different from the client’s beliefs.
As I pointed out in my recent blog post about Steve Jobs and the following week’s post on how our assumptions about the world severely limit our possibilities, not everyone sees the same world. And coaches usually don’t see the same world we see.
Each of us might deal with the same physical world, but each of us interacts daily with a world of our own making, a world that is a function of our beliefs. Some people deal with a world in which they are powerless, in which people can’t be trusted, in which they will never get what they want, in which life is difficult, and in which “obstacles” keep you from getting what you want. This is not airy-fairy stuff. This is real. In some people’s reality, this is the way the world really is, so all your choices and possibilities are affected by “your” world.
Other people deal with a world in which they experience the power to make things happen, in which people can be trusted and in which people are supportive, in which people can and do get what they want, in which life is open and friendly, and in which “obstacles” are only challenges to be overcome. For such people, this also is very real. This is the way they experience the world and that experience determines their choices.
Different worldviews contain different possibilities.
Take a moment and make this real. We are not merely taking about people having different beliefs. We are taking about different people inhabiting very different worlds.
And in some worldviews there are many more possibilities than in others. And if a coach inhabits a world with far more possibilities and far fewer barriers, that coach will be able to point out those possibilities that you couldn’t possibly see.
The problem is that the possibilities the coach can see are impossible in your world. So ultimately the most important thing coach can do is not merely point out opportunities you can’t see because of your different worldview, but help you change your own worldview.
And because your worldview is a function of your beliefs, changing your worldview requires eliminating your limiting beliefs. When you do that, possibilities that literally didn’t exist for you suddenly because available.
And I’m not just talking about self-esteem type beliefs, I’m talking about beliefs that consist of assumptions about what can and can’t be done in the world. If you believe, as Corning Glass CEO, Wendell Weeks did, that “We don’t have the capacity,” to make all the gorilla glass Steve Jobs wanted, you would turn down a very profitable order for your company. If you believe, as Steve Jobs did, that the glass could be built in six months despite the fact that none of the plants were currently making the glass, then you will find a way to convince the supplier that the glass could be delivered even when the supplier insisted it could not.
I’m run by my assumptions, too.
I’m pretty good about questioning my assumptions, and yet the other day several of them were hindering my ability to turn one of our webinars into a digital product. I had several assumptions that I had never thought to question:
• People in the course needed to experience “no meaning” many times in order to be able to dissolve meaning on a regular basis.
• The only way people could get that experience was from eliminating a lot of beliefs.
• The only way for people to easily eliminate enough beliefs was to complete the Natural Confidence (NC) program.
• Fewer people would get the new digital program if they were required to buy the NC program first.
In a discussion with Rodney, one of my associates, he got me to question all of these assumptions. As a result, a huge roadblock to making this new course available just disappeared when I became aware of my assumptions and eliminated them.
All of us have hundreds of assumptions that define our worldview and determine what we think is even possible. It would never occur to you to question those assumptions because they are “the truth” for you. The real value of a coach is having someone make you question some of those assumptions. If you’re at all interested in using a coach, make sure he/she has the ability to help you change your worldview.
Thanks for reading my blog. Please post your questions or comments about how our worldview determines what is possible for us and how a good coach can help us question our worldview. Your comments will add value for thousands of readers. I read them all and respond to as many as I can.
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The Bedivere Eatery & Tavern in Lebanon is giving a 10 percent discount to patrons who surrender their mobile devices to the restaurant during their meal. The policy is designed to encourage diners to socialize with each other, rather than staring at their screens through a meal.
“Leave Your Phone in Our Custody And Get 10% DISCOUNT On food Menu!!” reads a scrolling message on the restaurant’s website.
Dining at this restaurant isn’t the only way to monetarily incentivize unplugging at the dinner table. “Phone Stacking,” a smartphone game that employs better tech etiquette, makes the first person who checks their device the before the bill comes pay for the entire tab.
Check out the Bedivere flyer below:
Exxon Mobil’s oil exploration in Madagascar in 2008 involved the use of multi-beam echosounders, which produce seismic blasts of more than 120 decibles. For 75 whales in the area, these disruptive blasts proved deadly back then. And now, years later, the final analysis shows that Exxon’s seismic blasts drove dozens of melon-headed whales into dangerously shallow water where they died from exposure, dehydration or starvation. This is four times more whales than were killed by the infamous Exxon Valdez oil spill of 1989.
Proving cause and effect is very difficult to do, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Now for the first time, they proved it. Scientists have long argued that seismic blasts could disturb, injure and even kill dolphins and whales but this new report is the first to show a clear cause-and-effect relationship.
A proposal that President Obama is now considering would allow similar but even more intense seismic exploration in the Atlantic Ocean from Delaware to Florida. According to government estimates, this action could injure 138,000 marine mammals, and “disturb” more than 13 million more. Disturbances, like injuries, can lead to deaths. Disturbance is what drove the melon-headed whales to the shallow water, where they later died.
In ExxonMobil’s Madagascar testing, a wall of sound exceeding 120 decibels at a frequency of 12 kHz covered a very large area, moving with the survey ship for hours and driving the startled whales into a death trap. These types of seismic noises are well known to interrupt the vital behaviors of whales and dolphins such as mating, feeding, breathing and communicating, even when they come from far away. But the impacts on their behavior and what that may mean for their survival are difficult to predict.
In the Atlantic, the situation could actually be much worse. Blasts from those seismic airguns would be the loudest man-made sounds in the ocean next to dynamite. We are talking about a sound 100,000 times more intense than a jet engine, and like the imagined living room explosions, they happen every 10 seconds, for 24 hours a day, and for days to weeks on end.
These predicted impacts sound bad, but it gets worse. The number of expected disturbances to marine mammals (13.5 million) is a gross underestimate. The National Oceanic and Atmospheric administration is planning to release new science, that will show that even more animals are likely to be harmed by the intense noises.
This new science, combined with today’s report on the whales killed by seismic technology in Madagascar, should be reason enough to at least put this proposal on hold, if not stop it in its tracks. But, to the contrary. The Obama administration is moving forward, to get seismic blasting started, even though oil and gas development is still at least five years away.
Oceana has urged the administration to reject this deadly seismic testing in the Atlantic at least until safer technologies are available. More than 100,000 individuals and 50 Members of Congress agreed. At the very least the president should wait until all of the science has come in before making a decision that could irreparably harm or these intelligent marine mammals, as ExxonMobil seems to have done, however indirectly, in Madagascar.
The former secretary of state and her daughter, Chelsea Clinton, announced the three-year project at the Clinton Global Initiative, telling activists and supporters that the killing of elephants to support the sale of ivory around the globe had reached a crisis point. “Unless the killing stops, African forest elephants are expected to be extinct within 10 years. I can’t even grasp what a great disaster this is ecologically, but also for everyone who shares this planet,” the former first lady said.
Clinton, a potential 2016 presidential candidate, said losing the elephant to extinction “seems like such a rebuke to our own values.”
The Clinton initiative aims to prevent the killing and trafficking of elephants and rhinos. It also hopes to address the demand for ivory in Asia and the United States.
Several conservation groups have banded together to prevent the slaughter, including the Wildlife Conservation Society and the World Wildlife Fund. They noted that trafficking has a national security element because some of the illicit proceeds have helped terrorist organizations.
The leaders of six African countries – Uganda, Burkino Faso, Gabon, Malawi, Ivory Coast and Tanzania – joined the Clintons at the event, pledging their cooperation, along with officials representing other African nations.
Ugandan President Yoweri Museveni said the nations would support a moratorium on imports, exports and sales of tusks and ivory until the elephant population is no longer threatened.
“It is time for the global community to act decisively against this plague,” said Ali Bongo Ondimba, president of Gabon.
Clinton championed the protection of wildlife while at the State Department. Wildlife conservation groups have estimated that 35,000 elephants were killed illegally in Africa in 2012.
The project will support anti-poaching enforcement, including the hiring of an additional 3,100 park guards, targeting the trafficking of elephants, levying stiffer penalties for poaching and using sniffer dog teams at transit points.
“The big problem is that the benefits of poaching and selling ivory are far greater than the risk to the poachers,” said chimpanzee researcher Jane Goodall, who said poachers do not typically face long sentences if apprehended.
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The U.S. Department of Agriculture received a patent in August for a trap that resembles a long, thin cage with a net at one end for the live capture of large, heavy snakes. Researchers say Burmese pythons regard the Everglades as an all-you-can-eat buffet, where native mammals are easy prey and the snakes have no natural predators. The population of Burmese pythons, which are native to India and other parts of Asia, likely developed from pets released into the wild, either intentionally or in the aftermath of Hurricane Andrew in 1992.
Wildlife officials are racing to control the python population before it undermines ongoing efforts to restore natural water flow through the Everglades. According to a study released last year, mammal sightings in the Everglades are down sharply in areas where pythons are known to live.
The Gainesville field station for the National Wildlife Research Center, which falls under the USDA, is preparing to test the trap in a natural enclosure that contains five pythons.
Over the coming months, the researchers will try baiting the traps with the scent of small mammals such as rats, and they will try camouflaging them as pipes or other small, covered spaces where pythons like to hide, said John Humphrey, a biologist at the research center. Future tests may use python pheromones as bait.
“There’s still more to be learned, there’s still more to be tested,” Humphrey said. “This is just one of your tools that you have to put together with other things to get the problem solved.”
The trap was developed to catch exotic snakes without ensnaring smaller, lighter native species, Humphrey said.
The 5-foot-long trap is made from galvanized steel wire with a tightly woven net secured to one end. Two separate triggers need to be tripped simultaneously for it to close, which should keep it from snapping shut on such native snakes as the eastern diamondback rattlesnake or the water moccasin.
“The largest native snakes are generally somewhat smaller than the youngest of the pythons,” Humphrey said. “That was the impetus of the design.”
The longest python ever caught in Florida was an 18-foot-8-inch specimen found in May beside a rural Miami-Dade County road.
Humphrey developed the trap in collaboration with Wisconsin-based Tomahawk Live Trap, which is working on a licensing agreement to sell the traps along with other snake-handling equipment such as tongs, hooks and secure bags.
“We don’t expect to sell a lot of them; it’s not an everybody thing, not like a chipmunk or a squirrel trap,” said co-owner Jenny Smith. But she said it has potential for wildlife removal companies when they get calls about “a big snake.”
It’s not clear where exactly the traps would be deployed, or whether they would be effective in an area as vast as Florida’s Everglades.
Everglades National Park alone encompasses 1.5 million acres, and all but roughly a hundred thousand acres of that is largely inaccessible swampland and sawgrass, vital breeding grounds for a variety of protected species.
It might not make sense, or even be possible, to place and monitor traps in hard-to-reach swamplands, said park spokeswoman Linda Friar.
Traps have been used in the park to collect pythons for research but not for population control, Friar said.
Most of the state and federal efforts aimed at pythons have focused on learning how the elusive snakes have adapted so well in the wild, and that learning process continues, she said.
“They’re so difficult to track and find,” Friar said. “What we do know is they’ve adapted. We don’t know how many there are.”
One of the challenges facing wildlife officials is that the tan, splotchy snakes are incredibly difficult to spot in the wild, even for seasoned hunters. Researchers say they’ll fail to see a python they’re tracking with a radio tracking device until they’re practically standing on it.
The Florida Fish and Wildlife Conservation Commission allows hunters with special permits to remove pythons and other exotic reptiles from some state lands. Earlier this year, a state-sanctioned hunt that attracted worldwide media attention. Roughly 1,600 amateur python hunters joined the permit holders for a month, netting a total of 68 snakes.
In an Auburn University experiment, specially trained dogs found more pythons than their human counterparts, but researchers also found that the dogs, much like humans, would falter the longer they worked in South Florida’s often oppressive humidity.
State wildlife officials also try to catch pythons through “exotic pet amnesty days” where people can relinquish non-native species with no questions asked. They also urge residents to report encounters with pythons and other invasive species to a hotline, . Florida prohibits the possession or sale of pythons for use as pets, and federal law bans the importation and interstate sale of the species. http://www.IVEGOT1.org
A prolonged cold snap has proven to be one of the better methods of python population control, killing off large numbers of the snakes in 2010. The population rebounded, though, because low temperatures aren’t reliable in subtropical South Florida and because pythons reproduce quickly and in large numbers.
Other traps set for pythons in the past haven’t been effective, but traps have been successfully used to capture other exotic species such as black-and-white tegu lizards, said conservation commission spokeswoman Carli Segelson.
“It may be something that if it doesn’t work for the python, it may work for other species,” she said.
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